Coaching for Couples
You don't have to be in crisis to ask for help. Some couples come because the same argument keeps coming back. Others feel like colleagues running a household, or drifted apart after a big change. In couples coaching you work together on what you want your relationship to be like, and I help you get there. I don't take sides, and I don't act as judge.
Why couples come
- Arguments that circle without ending
- One of you shuts down while the other pushes for an answer
- Feeling like roommates, or like co-managers of a household
- Rebuilding trust after something has gone wrong
- A big change: a baby, a move, a career shift, an empty nest, retirement
- Hard topics such as money, family, time and intimacy
- Deciding together what the future of the relationship should be
How we work
- We begin by understanding the pattern. Each of you says what you want. Then we map the cycle you get stuck in: what each of you does when things get tense, and what each of you is trying to protect.
- Next you build new skills. You practise listening, asking for what you need without blame, and repairing quickly after a row. We use real topics from your life, and I coach you while you talk.
- Then we make it stick. You take the new habits home, review what works, and plan for the next stressful stretch.
What a session looks like
Sessions are held by video call. We start with whatever matters most to you that day, work on it together, and finish with one or two things each of you will try before we next meet. We agree on how often to meet after the introductory call, once I know what you want to work on.
Is this right for us?
Couples coaching suits you if you both want things to be better, even when you disagree about how, and you are willing to try things between sessions. Couples of every kind and at every stage are welcome.
If you ever feel unsafe in your relationship, please contact a local specialist support service or your emergency number. Couples coaching is not the right place to start in that situation.
Active addiction and serious mental-health difficulties also need specialist support, either first or alongside coaching. If I think another kind of help would serve you better, I'll tell you honestly.