Relationship coaching looks forward. You tell me what you would like to be different, and we work out how to get there: seeing the patterns you fall into, practising new ways of listening and speaking, and trying them out between sessions.
It is not therapy. Here is how the two differ.
Where would you like to start?
Does any of this sound familiar?
- "We keep having the same argument. Only the words change."
- "We talk about the kids, the schedule and the bills. We hardly ever talk about us."
- "I say I'm fine when I'm not, because explaining feels exhausting."
- "When things get tense, one of us goes quiet and the other pushes harder."
- "We used to laugh more."
- "A move, a baby, a new job: something changed, and we ended up in different places."
- "I have to make a decision about my relationship and I can't think straight."
- "I keep ending up in the same kind of relationship."
These situations are common, and they can change. Wanting more closeness doesn't make you needy, and needing space doesn't make you cold.
It doesn't have to stay this way. Imagine...
- bringing up a sensitive subject and staying calm enough to finish the conversation.
- feeling heard, and hearing your partner without rushing to defend yourself.
- disagreeing and still feeling like a team.
- repairing quickly after a row.
- asking for what you need in plain words.
- laughing together again.
- meeting a big change with a plan you made together.
Better conversations get built in three steps.
Awareness
We start with you, or with the two of you. What do you each need? What sets you off? What do you do when you feel threatened? Seeing your own pattern is the first step toward changing it.
Communication
You practise listening, speaking up and repairing after a mistake, in sessions and at home. I bring tools from Positive Intelligence and somatic coaching to help you stay calm when a conversation gets hard.
Connection
You turn what you learn into small, regular habits, such as how you open a difficult conversation and how you check in with each other, so the closeness lasts after our sessions end.
How would you like to work together?
For Couples
- Break out of the argument you keep having.
- Learn to listen, and to be heard.
- Rebuild trust, warmth and teamwork.
For Individuals
- Understand the patterns you repeat in love and friendship.
- Think clearly about an important relationship decision.
- Set boundaries and ask for what you need.
How it works
- What happens on an introductory call.
- What a session looks like.
- How coaching differs from therapy.
Hi, I'm Karin
I'm a certified coach based in The Hague, and I work online with people all over the world. My background is in teaching and counselling. My purpose is to connect deeply with others through curiosity and empathy.
In coaching you set the agenda. I ask the questions, and you find the answers that fit your life.
ICF Professional Certified Coach (PCC) · Certified Positive Intelligence Coach · Somatic Coach (ICF approved) · Master's degree in Counselling